May God's force be with you

As a Star Wars fan, I was planning to go to the Mall of Asia to have my picture taken in the cockpit of the X-wing on exhibit. I thought I needed a friend to help me take my picture so I was slightly bummed that I did not bump into anyone I knew at Sunday's prayer meeting.

I went to the mall anyway and, happily, the staff were the ones taking pictures. And as I went on my own, I had a solo picture in the cockpit like I had wanted. Yay!

The real blessing was as I was going around the mall, I saw my aunt and two cousins. We had a nice dinner bonding as a result.

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Because of my serendipitous meeting with my kin, I invited the younger cousin to join me the next day. She agreed. She was not aware of it but I really needed her company and she was a true blessing to me the next day.

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Of course I wanted to watch Star Wars. My college friends and I were planning to watch on day 1. But I lost my desire to watch with them when us early birds were eating together and one of them kept teasing with "spoilers" after I specifically asked him not to. I was not in the mood for that. I left. 

Originally, I had intended to come back, but the idea of watching with the group suddenly felt like too much for me to handle. I was more upset than I had anticipated.

As I made my way to a bus to go home, I knew in my heart I still wanted to watch. I wandered into the mall across the street and lo and behold, the Star Wars tickets were selling at P275 for the 3-D version. And the cinema was almost unoccupied. I think the target market of the mall did not quite match with the target market of the movie.

Wow! Felt so blessed that despite my lack of patience, I was still able to watch the movie at a better price in a very spacious cinema and in 3-D!

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Thank you for the protection you provide in the right people at the right time. Thank you for the unexpected blessings and consolations when we are unable to overcome our own weaknesses. Thank you for loving us unconditionally. May your mercy transform us so we may love you back more and more each day and someday be made worthy of your promises. All these we pray in Jesus' name. Amen.

Vignettes

On the last segment of the journey home, I was next in line for a tricycle. Just at the moment when the tricycle I should have gotten on was approaching, my sister drives up in her car and stops for me. Yay! 

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I have spent over a month at my contractual job and have been given an opportunity to write another children's book. Deadline today has been met with a first draft. I am hoping for the best.

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Thank you, Lord, for all the blessings we receive today and the blessings still to come. Though we know not where we are headed exactly, we trust in your loving plans for us. Amen.

A Traffic Pass

It has been a few weeks since my last entry. Divine presence has not been wanting but a brief silence seemed apt.

The most significant blessing is that I have a new job, albeit for a two-month contract. It is divine providence once again. The timing was perfect because it started the day after Tatay's 40th day. And it came through a former office connection renewed through theology.

Despite this enormous blessing, what prompted me to write again were the gifts I received from Mama Mary last September 8. I consider them gifts from the birthday celebrator instead of the other way around because she had been on my mind the whole day.

In any case, the first gift was punctuality despite the terrible traffic situation in Manila. I arrived on the dot. 

The second was an unusual early arrival at home. 

I had decided to take the service provided by the office. And the route they decided to take was the Skyway, which meant we had to shell out our own money for the rather steep toll. Happily, when everyone had paid a part of the toll it amounted to a very reasonable P17 each.

Because of those decisions, I was home by 7:30 pm instead of the usual 9 or 10 pm. My mother and sister were still eating dinner. Amazing!

Added to that, it turns out my decision to skip Shopwise and not buy fruits was coordinated by text-by-angel because my mother's 3 pm text to say "do not buy fruits" (like I did the previous day) came in late. I read it at 11 pm when I was already at home. 

The following day, when I returned to the office, I heard tales of rain, flood, and traffic which caused terrible delays to many people on the later shift. What a contrast to my experience.

There are no easy solutions to the traffic situation in Manila but I am grateful to have received a one-day pass.

Happy birthday, Mama Mary. Thank you po for the safe and fast travel yesterday. Please pray for us especially at the hour of our death so that we may also have a safe (and speedy) journey to our eternal home someday.

Death

Death came for my father at last. His suffering is over. He is at peace.

Silence comes easily but I cannot blog a blank page. The right words feel like fish I am trying to catch by hand. 

There is a serenity punctuated by tearful moments. I imagine him having a heavenly reunion with loved ones. He is with his parents again, my grandparents, whom he would miss from time to time when he was still on earth. I wonder if he and another relative, who died twelve hours after him, chat while queuing to enter heaven. 

"Nandito ka rin?" one might ask. Then they would take turns relating how they died. Afterwards they would compare notes on their children and talk of their hopes and dreams for those they left behind.

I see my father meeting new friends... a father of a close friend who died about seven or eight years ago. Maybe the mother of BCat who died even earlier. 

I wonder if he had chatted on earth with the father of a cousin-in-law who died two days after him or if their heavenly chat would be their first real conversation.

There is a great comfort in "the communion of saints" that forms part of my Catholic faith. Love is stronger than death. The relationship continues even after the physical separation. We still belong to the same body of Christ.

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Throughout the difficulties since Tatay got sick, true friends have come to the fore with their prayers, emotional and financial support. The generosity has been overwhelming. What particularly touched me was that our main doctor truly fought with us; he stopped charging anything for a good part of our stay even when he was making daily rounds and spending time with us to answer our questions.  

Three months' stay in the hospital is no joke but because of people just pouring out their support, a significant chunk of the cost was borne by friends and relatives. PCSO helped too. My faith in divine providence has been renewed.

Lord, thank you for being with us every step of the way through the valley of death. We trust in your merciful salvation to see us through to triumphant resurrection. May all the souls of the faithful departed rest in the peace that only you can give. This we ask in Jesus' name.

Hope

Three years of unexpressed yearning; two months of sweetness; three months of hoping while in non-communication; one month of moving on... doing the right thing has never felt more miserable. 

Strangely, I find my personal misery is keeping me from feeling what I might be feeling if all I had to bear was my father's comatose condition. Maybe two different pains cannot occupy the same space. While my mother and sisters shed tears at the grim possibilities before us, I am still shedding tears from something entirely different. 

I guess in my father's case, hope does not hurt me. I see the reality before me but I can still hope for a miracle. This hope buoys me up. I will shed tears later when no hope is left.

As for the other... I have to keep reminding myself of the realities. There is no hope here, only delusion. There is no hope for me here, so I shed my tears now.

Thank you, Lord, for this strange blessing: that the heaviness of one cross helps me to better bear another. 

Nine minutes

My Sunday plan was to get to the Feast Bay Area around 10 am so I could go to confession and attend the 1 pm session. I was surprised to find that the priest who was there was the same one I confessed to a few months ago. In a way, it was another step to closure since he was the one who advised me of non-communication with a guy who got confused in his commitments by his feelings for me. It was quite a quick confession compared to the first time. I wonder if it's because Father remembers me and I did not have to elaborate on anything anymore. Anyway, am grateful for this sacrament.

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I went to Chow King for lunch and ordered chao fan rice with lumpiang shanghai toppings. When I got to the cutlery, there was only one metal fork left. So I grabbed it and a plastic spoon. It turned out, the metal fork was what I needed because it was far more manageable to eat the lumpiang shanghai with a fork that could actually pierce the crispy lumpia wrapper rather than have plastic utensils breaking on me.

Thank you, Lord.

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Le Chink was there for me after the Feast. He treated me to a lavish buffet at Vikings and afterwards let me cry as much as I wanted. Turns out I needed a good cry. 

Thank you, Lord, for good friends who are there for us when we need them. 

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When we got home, my brother called from the hospital. It was a call that threw the whole family into a panic but thank God, it was not yet the call. 

While on bantay duty, my father coughed so my brother buzzed for the nurse so they could suction out phlegm. When Art (the nurse) arrived, he noticed my father was very pale and a check of his vitals showed things were going down. A quick response from Art, Gelo and the other wonderful nurses revived my father from cardiac arrest after nine minutes.

Thank you, Lord. I hope whatever happened in that nine minutes, Tatay was with you. May your mercy prevail. We still hope for healing... will keep hoping until the end. But whatever happens, I hope Tatay will abide in you always. This we ask in Jesus' name. Amen.

Praise in Lament

Last Sunday, I was at the Feast PICC (now to be known as Feast Bay Area, with different venues: the 8:00 and 10:30 sessions at PICC; the 9:00 am, 1:00 pm and 4:00 pm sessions at the Aliw Theater; and Saturdays at the Star Theater at 5:30 pm).

This month's series is entitled Advancers: Age of Worship. Summed up, the big message I got was that: life is a battle and our battle cry is worship.

Right now, I am battling on two fronts: helping care for our sick father and moving on from a romantic entanglement. 

Sunday actually marked the official end of that romantic entanglement but the mind and heart of a person in love plays tricks and keeps grasping at straws of hope, however flimsy. Even to the last minute, I hoped for a happy ending for me... that ending that can only happen in movies where the leading man chooses the leading lady despite all odds and all reason. How desperately we want to believe the words our beloved tells us when they are saying one thing but in truth are really saying goodbye. 

The realistic hope I had was to see friends at the Feast to unburden my heart; but the ladies I was hoping for were nowhere to be found. And instead, while I sang that I surrendered it all, in my heart I found myself hoping for the impossible love to be there choosing me over everything else. Lord, bakit ganun? I'm doing my best to surrender, bakit umaasa pa rin ako kahit wala naman dapat asahan pa?

But at the end of the day, I did get consolation in the form of Le Chink, an old reliable friend who texted out of the blue asking if I was free that afternoon. So I did manage to unburden myself on a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. And he had a gift of mangoes to boot... all the better to soothe your heartache with my dear. So thank you, Lord, for sending what we needed to help us get through the day.

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That night, I was on hospital duty. Armed with the big message from the Feast, I just kept praying throughout the night, alternating between worship songs and the rosary. Surprisingly, it was a relatively peaceful night with my father mostly asleep. Those nights are good nights for me so I thank God for battling for me. Mission accomplished: the feeding tube so necessary for his nutrition and medicines did not get pulled out in his sleep or in his stubborness. I did not have to put on his mittens to restrain him. And he allowed me to pray the Divine Mercy chaplet with him. Thank you, Lord!

Last night was not as simple, but truly, worshipping God in the midst of battle--having God with me in the dark, through the tears and the heartache--this is the victory we can claim while we are on this earth as part of the church militant.

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Father, thank you for giving us an accurate diagnosis and means of treatment after such a long wait. Since the cost is far beyond our means, I know this is your battle and not mine. So I will trust in your providence that has been with us from the beginning. I declare your providence will continue to sustain us through the next eight weeks and beyond because you are our provider, our healer, our redeemer. Praise be to you. Thank you, Lord!

Lord, salamat din for all our heartaches. Thank you for the healing that will come in your time and through your grace. You have done so much for us in the past; we know you continue to be with us and will be with us through this painful time until we will just wake up one day and realize we're okay again. Thank you for the lessons each special person brings into our life. Please bless them always and keep them safe for all eternity. This we ask in Jesus' name. Amen.